Just a disclaimer: I try NOT to get preachy. I don't feel like I am anywhere near good/smart/wise enough of a person/woman/wife/daughter/etc to give ANYONE advice. But this just plain out upset me:
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/showbiz/2009/05/15/sbt.kate.jon.scandal.cnn
I don't know how to put the video in my blog, but I think this whole Jon & Kate + 8 thing is just so sad. Heartbreaking. And goes to show you what happens when a man and woman don't support each other. And how important it is to respect your husband (well, that applies before all this cheating stuff happened). And, a quote that made me twinge:
"Let's face it, for the most part, marriages don't last"
I have to admit, I have watched Jon & Kate. And it really makes me sick inside, watching the way she berates him. WHY is he not putting his foot down with her horrible attitude. For all those who don't know better, this is NOT how a marriage should work (before the cheating scandal, and of course, afterwards). I really hope that those cheating allegations aren't true,and I hope they meet someone along their path who will show/teach them what a Christ-centered marriage looks like. I know that I have only had a year and 10 months of marriage "experience" and for the most of that time, we haven't even lived together. But I know that Matt needs to be respected. And if I ever talked to him like Kate talks to Jon (cheating, aside) in PRIVATE (not to mention on tv) he would not stand for it. Matt and I, the day we married, became 1. That means, to the best of our ability, we fulfill our Biblical roles towards one another. He loves me as Christ loves the church (which he does so wonderfully) and I respect AND submit to him (oh no! I said the dreaded s-word ;)) (I TRY to respect him, and am learning how best to do that more and more every day).
*Ok, sorry I ranted. That won't happen again for a LONG time! (and I'm going to stop going to the entertainment page on cnn.com)
4 comments:
I was at CVS last week and saw them being featured on Us Weekly..and had to pick it up and read the whole article. It makes me so sad as well!!!!! She was awful to him...I agree!!!!!
Every relationship is different Betty. We each communicate to each other in our own way. I think the way they talk to each other is fine. Sure they get frustrated with each other at times but that's to be expected with 8 kids. Kate is the first to say that she's very controlling and OCD about stuff. Jon knows that, he's known it from day one.
If you've only watched a few eps then you probably don't know that early on they talked about their religion alot. I think it's kind of gotten edited out a bit now but they do have a relationship with God, so don't just assume that they don't.
Submitting to your spouse... that needs to be a mutal thing in my opinion. If I submit on one thing, then he needs to submit on something else. Otherwise things get unbalanced and that does not lead down a good path.
As for the quote, It makes me cringe as well. I hate to think that most marriages today do not last but statistically speaking that quote is correct. Should it be that way? No. Is it? Sadly, yes. I tend to think that most people want to blame one party or another for the whole thing (which it sounds like you are laying this one on Kate's shoulders) but usually, it's a combination of both parties.
Maybe she is being too conrolling and treating bad but is that enough of a reason for him to go out and have an affair? He has the choice of talking to her and fixing the issue or of acting out and having an affair.
All this boils down to for me is: I hate to see anyone's marriage having trouble. However, just because I get a glimps of their life on t.v., I cannot know how things really are in their life/marriage and I hope they are able to work things out in the best possible way.
rant more! I love these posts! They bear your heart Betty! Sounds like Kate Gosslin needs a Help Meet book and a big smack in the noggin! Thanks for posting. I'm glad you are learning to joyfully submit a little more each day! I am too! Love you!
Ephesians 5:33 "[Husbands], let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
Ephesians 5:23-24 "For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, ...Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
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